What's Your Grandparenting Love Language?

This quizz is based on Gary Chapman's popular concept and helps grandparents reflect on how they naturally show love and how they can better connect with their grandkids.

1 / 5

What do you most hope your grandchildren will remember about you?

That I always told them how proud I was of their kindness, courage, and smarts.

The special things I gave them that they still have and cherish.

My warm hugs and comforting presence.

All the times I helped them out with a project or solved a problem for them.

The wonderful memories we made together doing the things they love.

2 / 5

Your grandchild is having a tough day. What's your first instinct?

I tell them that they're strong and capable and that I know they can handle it.

I bring them a small gift to cheer them up.

I pull them into a big, comforting hug.

I offer to help them with whatever is bothering them, like a chore or a difficult homework assignment.

I put everything else aside to just be with them and talk it through.

3 / 5

What's your favorite way to show affection to your grandchild?

Telling them how much you love them and how special they are to you.

Bringing them a surprise, just because you were thinking of them.

Holding their hand, giving a pat on the back, or a warm squeeze.

Doing something for them that helps them out, like cleaning their room or making their favorite meal.

Simply sitting and listening to them talk about their day without interrupting.

4 / 5

Your grandchild has a big milestone, like a dance recital or a sports game. How do you show your support?

I send them a card with a heartfelt message telling them how proud I am of them.

I make sure they have a special outfit or new gear for the big day.

I'm there in person to give them a big hug before and after their performance.

I offer to drive them to the event or help them prepare in any way they need.

I dedicate the entire afternoon to attending their event and celebrating with them afterward.

5 / 5

What makes you feel most connected to your grandchild after they've visited?

Remembering the words of thanks they said or the compliments they gave you.

Seeing that they used the new art supplies or book you gave them.

The feeling of their last hug or the comforting cuddle you shared on the couch.

Thinking about the project you worked on together, like fixing a bike or planting a garden.

Recalling the conversation you had without any distractions.

What’s Your Grandparenting Love Language?

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